30 July 2008

The Good, the Bad, and the Caitlin.

Some people are jerks. Take, for instance, my creative writing teacher, Mr. L. He personifies every stereotype that exists about those from the Northeast being pretentious and rude a-holes. When he speaks to us lowly students, he does it in a way that constantly reminds us that we were all born within the last two decades, and therefore cannot know anything at all about the world. Because we aren't baby-boomers, because we weren't around to addle our minds with drugs in the 60s, because we were still toddlers during the era of Reaganomics, we obviously can't comprehend any words spoken, written, or thought before 1995. Obviously, we need every short story we read broken down and explained to us as if we are three-year-olds attempting to read Pride and Prejudice. And obviously, since the majority of us are from Texas, we don't got that book-learning neither (unless of course, you're not from Texas, or you are but happen to share Mr. L's love of eccentric movies and books and distaste for anything remotely concerned with pop culture, then you got that book-learning). He also constantly reminds us that none of us will ever be the next Flannery O'Connor and makes it quite clear that most of will probably never write anything good that anyone would actually consider reading. Despite his lack of people skills (or at the very least, lack of skill at interacting with us whippersnappers), his teaching skills are quite good, and I've learned so much about crafting fiction from him. Unfortunately, this new knowledge comes at the cost of feeling like an absolute dipshit every time I leave the class.

And then there are other people. People who are not jerks. Like Mrs. L (no relation to Mr. L, other than the shared last initial), my boss, of sorts. She is one of the nicest people I have ever come into contact with, she always has a smile on her face, cares about her coworkers, and is genuinely amused by pretty much everything. She has been nothing but helpful and has been showing me the ropes of magazines, including writing features and editing.

Just another aspect of the world of writing, I suppose. It's what you come to expect; you'll run into the jerks who just want to do their job, whether or not you learn anything from them doing their job, and you'll also have the pleasure of working with caring, interesting, and helpful people. Such is life, such is writing: the good and the bad, the helpful and the hurtful.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

"I really take issue with your point about single women raising "future convicts."

95% of priosn inmates were raised by single mothers. Put into Google "Statistics for children raised by sinngle mothers" & there are 1,250,000 results. Where have you been living? Under a rock? Get educated. Now is the time to start. You're brainwashed.

"I am a child of a single mother. My mother was not a "whore," and she doesn't have multiple STDs, as your essay suggests of women. My mother also did not cheat my father out of his house or get a new boyfriend, like in the example you posted above."

50% divorce rate with 70% of those divorces iniated by women, 60% of women cheat on their husbands, 1 in 4 American women have STD's, and in 86% of all divorce cases women get the children and the house, and I'm supposed to believe your mother is this rare exception? That's what they all say.

"My FATHER was the one who left his first wife and payed very little child support for her kids. After he and my mother married, they had me, and then my FATHER was the one who dumped my mother. He also made no effort to legally divorce my mother, so he has never paid a dime of child support for me."

Your father left probably your mother is a BITCH form Hell. How do I know? Does she live in the U.S.? Oh my God! I'm PSYCHIC.

"I disagree with the point you've made about not letting children be with their mothers unless a father is in the picture..."

Mothers abuse children 8 times more often than men because women have higher rates of mental illness and are by nature more emotionally abusive in general. This is why they need a man there to keep them from hurting their children.

".. because I know that if I had been left in my father's hands, my life would have been fucked. My FATHER is lazy, incompetent, and doesn't know the first thing about caring for anyone other than himself. He is the exact opposite of what you would call "proactive."

Incompetent at what? You've been brainwashed by your bitch mother. Single mothers are the No. 1 cause of single motherhood the days of 'Papa was a Rolling Stone' are over- women today CHOOSE to be single mothers and legally FORCE fathers out of their children's lives. That is our culture now. Go to amazon.com & put in 'single mother' under 'Books' & there are FORTY THOUSAND titles all either 'celebrating' single motherhood or have the attitude that fathers are not necessary anyway. You SERIOUSLY need to catch up with the times- not to mention you're a female- that's pretty pathetic that you're so clueless about female issues.

"..I can guarantee you I would not be an accomplished pianist, a published author, in my fourth year of college and about to graduate with two bachelor's degrees."

All of you little Femarroids are a dime a dozen and all alike- you only mention 'titles' of prestige, but don't mention any area of actual interest- not passions... because you don't have any interest in anything besides yourself. You published what? WHAT did you write and what about? What's the matter? Embarassed? TWO degrees? In what? I ALREAD KNOW. LIBERAL ARTS- worthless degrees that will get you NOWHERE the real world. You'll end up a secretary and then pregnant in 6 years. How do I know? STATS. You have an arificial sense of superiority and ZERO substance- THAT'S the reason women STILL accomplish nothing in real world terms.


"I am proud to say that I was raised by my mother and my mother alone. She is confident, talented, intelligent and, contrary to your essay, has interests invested in a wide variety of topics. I look forward to having children of my own (but not for awhile, I'm only 21) so that I can be a mother just like her."

You're going to be a single mother too- more dysfuntion & if you have a son, he'll probably go to prison.

Anonymous said...

"First, I'd like to thank you for at least allowing my comment to be posted. There are many bloggers who delete criticism of their views, but you at least allow other people to present their side of the debate."

Completely shutting out disagreements is a typically female habit on the net. Just go to iVillage sometime.. you'll see. I'm not threatened by you or anyone because you are not 'debating' me- I am presenting facts and you are simply wrong.

"On the other hand, I'm a little disappointed in your reply. You say that women can't have an intelligent debate, that they always resort to personal attacks, yet you have done the very thing that you denounce."

It was a mixture.. a mixture of thorny humor & more facts- not simply personal attacks.

"I did not try and claim that some of the problems you addressed don't exist. Instead, I calmly and rationally explained where I come from and my experiences in an attempt to stop generalizations. Yet you attacked me and my life: you called my mother a bitch,"

And you referred to your father as a loser in a not-so-calm way.

"..accused me of being pathetic and clueless, and implied that I'm just another statistic. I guess hypocrisy is okay for males, or are you going to tell me you're a woman so you can "prove" one of the "theories" in your essay?

They are not theories- they are the facts and the society we live in today. Women today are trainwrecks. Take a look around you. If you do not see them as trainwrecks then you truly ARE pathetic because your standards are incredibly low.

"I'm just trying to remind people that just because "95 percent of prison inmates were raised by single mothers" (haven't verified that percentage yet) doesn't mean that "100 percent of children raised by single mothers are failures."

Hey, and all drunk driving doesn't result in an accident- so let's just go ahead and do it. Your logic is well, illogical... handicap of being female I suppose. As far as the 95% statistic- yea, you go verify that-in fact why don't you go visit a prison and interview inmates- ask them about it- then write a book about it, Ms. Mary Shelley? You'll become a best selling author & famous because of the subject matter.. I'm not being sarcastic... and you're welcome in advance for the idea.

"Knowing all of this, I will find it appaling if you still believe my mother was the problem in their relationship."

Do you have any idea how many times I've heard stories like these and then I meet the mother- and then right away I can see from the body language & general attitude that she's a monster?

"He is now a 57-year-old man without a job, living in a hotel and depending on my great-aunt to pay for his necessities. And no, I have not been "brainwashed." I have been to the disgusting hovel he calls a home, and I have seen my great-aunt personally hand over checks to him and expect no repayment."

Your father is an alcholic and/or dug addict and needs help- that is completely different from 'incompetent.'

"Enough about my mother, now about me."

Ah, you're favorite subject, I know.

"Yes, I mentioned titles because they are true. I didn't want to type out my entire autobiography, but if you would like me to, I will. One of my passions is music. I have been playing the piano since the age of seven, French horn since I was 11, and I taught myself guitar at 18. I actually get emotional when I listen to Debussy; I always close my eyes to really appreciate the notes. I never cry at movies, unless the score playing in the background has just the right amount of violin crescendo swelling at just the right time. I was probably the only person in my high school band who didn't hate it because I loved being a part of an ensemble and hearing my instrument join all the others to create beautiful music."

That is all very pleasant, but there's a 99% likelihood that this & 50 cents will buy you a cup of coffee as far as an income. How do I know? I'm a musician, songwriter & a singer- have lived in L.A. & tried to make in it the music business. You need concrete, realistic goals. For example, I have an actual career with a real company.

"My other passion is writing. At the end of May, I will have a Bachelor of Arts in Rhetoric and Writing (that's the study of argument, in case you didn't know) and a Bachelor of Journalism. I write for a travel magazine, and I've had several articles published about my experiences traveling around the state. Would you like to look them up? I've had many people tell me that their small towns/stores/festivals have actually seen an increase in visitors because of what I've written about them. You may not think so, but I think helping people like that is an accomplishment."

Do you have any idea just how many of you I meet EVERYDAY? I dated a girl with two degrees - one in 'English' and one in journalism. She didn't do anything.. except take Valium.

"I already have a job lined up at the magazine where I write for after I graduate. And guess what? It's not as a secretary! It's as a copyeditor and department writer. So lucky me, I'll have a great full-time job while I continue to play music and write fiction (my real passion, I love using my imagination) in my free time."

Writing for a magazine is not full time employment. Good luck paying the bills- oh- I forgot.. you're currently looking for a sucker guy with a real job to do that for you while you play all day writing fluff pieces about vacation spots- or have you already found him (and are living with him now?)

"And a parting thought, as someone who has been "university educated," didn't anyone ever teach you to proofread your work before you submit it?"

Uh, I don't know if you noticed.. but you're writing on a BLOG. This isn't university & I'm not 'submitting' anything. I'm heavy on substance, light on decorum.. you on the other hand are the opposite. There is a world full of female writes all EXACTLY the same- writing prissy, prim fluff pieces with immaculate grammer about air.

Sorry to pop your bubble- but the real world is about 1000 times harsher than I am & you obvioulsy haven't had a taste of it yet.

Anonymous said...

"Aw c'mon, you didn't even reply to the part in parenthesis. This just isn't fun anymore."

Such a shame not everyone is in lockstep with your expectations... Oh, I'm more 'fun' than you can handle. Speaking of that I don't know if you noticed that this is only one of my pictorial essays- you'll notice I have several others under my Blogger account. Plus there are all my posters http://antiamericanfemaleposters.blogspot.com/

And you probably shouldn't consider yourself "harsh;" you certainly aren't hurting my feelings."

The intention isn't to 'hurt your feelings.' The intention is to wake you up and introduce you to yourself and your real place in the world.

"I also don't think you understand what "department writer" means. It's not the same as "freelance writer." It means that something I write will appear in each month's issue, which means I will work 40+ hours a week and have a steady paycheck."

I'm afraid that YOU don't understand.. 'department writer' isn't going to end up being 40 hours a week. Given it is even a weekly publication - but prob monthly - there isn't 160 hours a month of writing to do. You're being misled- prob by a female.

And yes, the iStock photo with a backstory.. yes, but you're the only one who's ever noticed that was obviously not real.. doesn't say much for the general readership- I suppose they are either too enraged or too much in agreement to be petty about it.

Speaking of which -there's a true challenge.. as a writer anyone can
write politically correct articles, but it is an entirely different world to go completely against the mainstream. I seriously doubt you would be able to withstand the heat of that as a writer. I'm getting too tired. I'm going to bed.